Comments for brotherdash.com http://brotherdash.com Spoken Word Poet, Writer, Social Critic and All Around Cool Dude Sat, 24 Jul 2010 19:02:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Leda http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1027 Leda Sat, 24 Jul 2010 19:02:23 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1027 First of all the truth of the matter is a Muslim man can marry "any" believing women. That cuts down immediately on the numbers for believeing Muslim women right? So then we get into the gossipers and liars who go throughout the community talking garbage about black women to men, who might be interested in marrying a sister but these loud mouths, Muslim men, "don't marry a sister" this bunch. Ya Allah. Please. At any rate I know sisters married to Pakistani's, Persians, Moroccans,and everything in between. Find what works for you, and wait on Allah to guide you to the right person. First of all the truth of the matter is a Muslim man can marry “any” believing women. That cuts down immediately on the numbers for believeing Muslim women right? So then we get into the gossipers and liars who go throughout the community talking garbage about black women to men, who might be interested in marrying a sister but these loud mouths, Muslim men, “don’t marry a sister” this bunch. Ya Allah. Please. At any rate I know sisters married to Pakistani’s, Persians, Moroccans,and everything in between. Find what works for you, and wait on Allah to guide you to the right person.

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by brotherdash http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1026 brotherdash Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:00:14 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1026 I need more than 1 day sometimes to get to approving 1st time commenters. I need more than 1 day sometimes to get to approving 1st time commenters.

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Najma Fahad http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1025 Najma Fahad Sat, 17 Jul 2010 17:24:19 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1025 What happened to my comment? Something about it needed modification, was I supposed to sugar-coat my comment? I do apologise, but hey I thought I mention the big fat elephant in the room nothing wrong with that. What happened to my comment? Something about it needed modification, was I supposed to sugar-coat my comment? I do apologise, but hey I thought I mention the big fat elephant in the room nothing wrong with that.

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Isa http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1024 Isa Sat, 17 Jul 2010 07:39:51 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1024 sallam brothers and sisters, I know finding a wife/husband is getting hard these days. be patient, make dua and have hope inshallah. You can also try and check out this site... http://www.singleblackmuslim.com inshallah we all find someone :-) Isa sallam brothers and sisters,

I know finding a wife/husband is getting hard these days. be patient, make dua and have hope inshallah. You can also try and check out this site…

http://www.singleblackmuslim.com

inshallah we all find someone :-)

Isa

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Najma Fahad http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1023 Najma Fahad Fri, 16 Jul 2010 16:28:14 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1023 So what is the problem with Muslim African-American/Caribbean men? Why do they care about women from other race? Why don't they not just marry their own women? There are plenty Muslim African-American/Caribbean women out there looking for husbands. Why the inferior complex? They must hate themselves if they are so desperate searching to be accepted and are desperately searching to marry outside their race. I think the reason a lot of Muslim women would not won't to marry African-American/Caribbean men is because of some nasty stigma on them. First stigma-they cheat a lot, second stigma- they don't take care of their women, family, community, hence the reason there are so many broken family within their community. Third stigma comes from the TV, the hip hop and bling bling lifestyle they are after. So again why this article if the African-American/Caribbean men love his own women takes care of her and he doesn't suffer from inferior complex? When you love yourself, your people and your culture and you take care of your community, then the stigma dies and women from other race will be attracted to you. Also I don’t agree with the idea of African women being disadvantage in the marriage area. I’m a Somali woman the way my community operates is, as soon the girl wants’ to get married she let the family and friends know and she starts socialising, going to weddings etc. You Somalia ladies know what I mean, we Somalia’s don’t have the whole segregation of male/female thing, so it is really very easy through friends, family and socialising to meet someone and eventually get married. I hate this type of articles and always make me moody, I don’t see myself as an racist just because I would like to marry someone from the same culture background and I don’t won’t my children to have identity crisis. So what is the problem with Muslim African-American/Caribbean men? Why do they care about women from other race? Why don’t they not just marry their own women? There are plenty Muslim African-American/Caribbean women out there looking for husbands. Why the inferior complex? They must hate themselves if they are so desperate searching to be accepted and are desperately searching to marry outside their race. I think the reason a lot of Muslim women would not won’t to marry African-American/Caribbean men is because of some nasty stigma on them. First stigma-they cheat a lot, second stigma- they don’t take care of their women, family, community, hence the reason there are so many broken family within their community. Third stigma comes from the TV, the hip hop and bling bling lifestyle they are after. So again why this article if the African-American/Caribbean men love his own women takes care of her and he doesn’t suffer from inferior complex? When you love yourself, your people and your culture and you take care of your community, then the stigma dies and women from other race will be attracted to you. Also I don’t agree with the idea of African women being disadvantage in the marriage area. I’m a Somali woman the way my community operates is, as soon the girl wants’ to get married she let the family and friends know and she starts socialising, going to weddings etc. You Somalia ladies know what I mean, we Somalia’s don’t have the whole segregation of male/female thing, so it is really very easy through friends, family and socialising to meet someone and eventually get married. I hate this type of articles and always make me moody, I don’t see myself as an racist just because I would like to marry someone from the same culture background and I don’t won’t my children to have identity crisis.

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by yasmeen http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1022 yasmeen Mon, 28 Jun 2010 22:49:19 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1022 i think we as muslims should be open minded... also that our islam is fair.. and we shouldnt care about anybody skin color...thank u i think we as muslims should be open minded… also that our islam is fair.. and we shouldnt care about anybody skin color…thank u

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Dan http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1020 Dan Wed, 23 Jun 2010 03:44:52 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1020 Asalaamu alaikum. I am an African Muslim. I must confessed I agreed with what this sister has said. First, generally Black women, whether AA or from the African Continent, are the most disadvantaged women in this part of the world. But the AA Muslim sisters is far worst when it comes to any other thing, especially marriage. Part of the fear probably lies in the believe that they are too assertive, and hostile to polygamy. But, there is also the fear that they would not like to go back to the continent. Short of this, they are loved by African Muslims and one of our dreams is to get married to them. The issue of race in Islam is really a secondary issue. But the facts and reality on the ground makes it a serous and primary issue. Our Arab and other Asian brothers and sisters should search their souls of this issue. They should look and organise around the ways and manners Black Muslims are being treated in Arab countries generally. Even their attitude towards Blacks in West is really terrible, which is why you find Nigerian/Somalian, etc., building their Mosques, etc. But, I am happy this issue is being discussed and for good for that matter. I pray ALLAH help us to solve our differences. Asalaamu alaikum. I am an African Muslim. I must confessed I agreed with what this sister has said. First, generally Black women, whether AA or from the African Continent, are the most disadvantaged women in this part of the world. But the AA Muslim sisters is far worst when it comes to any other thing, especially marriage. Part of the fear probably lies in the believe that they are too assertive, and hostile to polygamy. But, there is also the fear that they would not like to go back to the continent. Short of this, they are loved by African Muslims and one of our dreams is to get married to them.
The issue of race in Islam is really a secondary issue. But the facts and reality on the ground makes it a serous and primary issue. Our Arab and other Asian brothers and sisters should search their souls of this issue. They should look and organise around the ways and manners Black Muslims are being treated in Arab countries generally. Even their attitude towards Blacks in West is really terrible, which is why you find Nigerian/Somalian, etc., building their Mosques, etc.
But, I am happy this issue is being discussed and for good for that matter. I pray ALLAH help us to solve our differences.

]]> Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Rayann http://brotherdash.com/?p=47&cpage=1#comment-1018 Rayann Sun, 20 Jun 2010 14:03:46 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=47#comment-1018 Salam alaykum sister. MashaAllah may Allah grant you and your sister happiness in your spouses. Just wondering if I could ask for a word of advice as I am currently in this situation. I am a somali sister and a revert who is half english and half jamaican is interested for my hand in marriage. I've told my mother but she has not favoured this choice, but I'm not willing to back down. Any advice on how I can get her to turn around? JazakAllah, Rayann Salam alaykum sister.

MashaAllah may Allah grant you and your sister happiness in your spouses.

Just wondering if I could ask for a word of advice as I am currently in this situation. I am a somali sister and a revert who is half english and half jamaican is interested for my hand in marriage. I’ve told my mother but she has not favoured this choice, but I’m not willing to back down. Any advice on how I can get her to turn around?

JazakAllah,

Rayann

]]> Comment on First Look: Next Brother Dash Album by brotherdash http://brotherdash.com/?p=804&cpage=1#comment-1017 brotherdash Thu, 17 Jun 2010 22:35:25 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=804#comment-1017 Your support and commentary over these past several months has been worth more than you know. Bless you. And yes Poetic Justice is more for the public domain. I anticipate it being my favorite material to be honest. Your support and commentary over these past several months has been worth more than you know. Bless you. And yes Poetic Justice is more for the public domain. I anticipate it being my favorite material to be honest.

]]> Comment on Music And Islam: Wind, Strings And Fear of A Black Planet by Aisha Baranowska, UK http://brotherdash.com/?p=123&cpage=1#comment-1016 Aisha Baranowska, UK Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:15:04 +0000 http://brotherdash.com/?p=123#comment-1016 While there is no clear evidence from the Qur'an and Hadith that music generally is haraam or even as to what instruments are haraam, as to my knowledge, I agree that music generally is halaal because what is not haraam, is halaal by default until clearly prooved to be haraam. Even some hadithes cited by some people here might be interpreted in many ways. One who wants to believe that music is indeed condemned basing on a hadith that certain people will be turned to monkeys and swines - that is pointless because even if the hadith would be authentic, it clearly says that these people will become monkeys and swines as a result of their sins such as drinking of alcohol and commiting az-zina... It is not music itself pointed out as a grave sin in this hadith. So there is no doubt, music is allowed, as long as we don't commit grave sins such as drinking and other things like that, which are often associated with music. End of the question. Salaam. A.B. While there is no clear evidence from the Qur’an and Hadith that music generally is haraam or even as to what instruments are haraam, as to my knowledge, I agree that music generally is halaal because what is not haraam, is halaal by default until clearly prooved to be haraam. Even some hadithes cited by some people here might be interpreted in many ways. One who wants to believe that music is indeed condemned basing on a hadith that certain people will be turned to monkeys and swines – that is pointless because even if the hadith would be authentic, it clearly says that these people will become monkeys and swines as a result of their sins such as drinking of alcohol and commiting az-zina… It is not music itself pointed out as a grave sin in this hadith. So there is no doubt, music is allowed, as long as we don’t commit grave sins such as drinking and other things like that, which are often associated with music.
End of the question.
Salaam.
A.B.

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