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Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by musa hamid

musa hamid — Fri, 17 May 2013 13:44:11 +0000

assalamu aliakum sister you will not be going against the teachings of islam to marry this brother, if he is a praticing muslim and you a practing muslimah and you have agreeded to marry and are happy with each other then you should marry it is not you who are in the wrong its your parents and if they feel this way then it may be that they are not really pious or true believers. i hate to say it but there is a problem of racism even in islam. i am an african american muslim man and my wife is an arab muslim woman from morocco

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by musa hamid

musa hamid — Fri, 17 May 2013 13:22:57 +0000

assalamu aliakum brother if you and the sister have agreeded to be married dont let the fact that some of her family doesnt agree with it stop you from getting married. ALLAH has said in the quran “o mankind! we created you from a single soul, male and female, and made you into nations and tribes, so that you may come to know one another. truly, the most honoured of you in gods sight is the greatest of you in piety. god is all-knowing, all-aware”(quran 49:13) racism is as old as mankind it was here even before mankind stepped his foot on mother earth starting with the satan. even though ALLAH(SWT) and even our beloved messenger muhammand (pbh) said that no one is better than another because of the color of their skin only on the bases of how god fearing they are many do not follow the true message of islam. we must still remember people are still people reguardless of if they call themselves muslims this doesnt make them true believers and they miss the true message of islam its not about the physical but rather the spiritual. i am an african american muslim man 41 married to an arab woman from morocco who is 36 we just had a beautiful baby girl. her family accepted me but i cant lie and say i havent seen or still dont see racism towards us but we know what ALLAH(swt) and our messenger has said and dont let it bother us.

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by eva pitcher

eva pitcher — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 00:36:55 +0000

I really feel bad for you. I have found the men there in the Gambia to be the same. I was having one such man in my life and he is so very much the same as the man you describle. He tells me very little and treats me in such a way I feel he is using me. He had lttle or no thougts of me…is always all about him He is the most selfish individual I have ever met in my entire life. He acts independently of me. He never reveals he is going away until same day and expects me to alway undertands his wants and needs and to basically obey him. he is a hypocrite and he can treat me so poorly as in using very foul language on me and then go and pray! This really irks me and I cannot help when this happens to think what a hypocrite he is…he acts kind of crazy to me. I wish I could talk to you about this. I am in a mess being with this man and it has been thus far a 2 yr relationship built on lies and deceit. I need my head examined being with this person. He is black, he is Gambian and he is a practising Muslim. He acts like he is a tin god. His father having four wives and so many children that he cannot afford to feed . Is all my money keeping this man. I think he is just using me and as I said I need my head examined but in my mind and heart I still love this person. I need help. No one should have such a person as he is so rude to me and it is all about him…I make all the sacrifices and do everything for this person. He shows little affection…just when he wants something is all.

Comment on How Did I Get Here? by Khadija

Khadija — Tue, 02 Apr 2013 12:35:06 +0000

Subhan’Allah! May Allah reward you for all your struggles and always keep you on the straight path. Truly inspiring , touched my heart brother masha’Allah

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by sarah

sarah — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 20:13:49 +0000

Asalamalaykum,

I am british Pakistani female married to a british jamaican male we are muslims i have faced racism from other muslims specialy pakistani community there was a point when a muslim brother saw me walking with my husband and tried to run me over with his car i thought subhanAllah you FOOL i had to move out of the city because of the cruelty from my own people i had to face it. Its been 5years i havent had any problems except of stares glaring at me lol.

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Berber Queen

Berber Queen — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 10:38:54 +0000

Some of my African Muslim friends have married White Muslims against their parents’ wishes, and got loads of issues down the road. Most of them have cut contact with their families because of it.
As a Muslim myself, I do think African Muslims parents somehow carry this trait more than anybody else, they rarely approve of these unions.
That’s cultural baggages for ya I guess…
Everyone’s racist in a way or another.
I am North African, and would never marry a South East Asian man, however I’d consider any other ethnicity lol.
Good luck.

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by Berber Queen

Berber Queen — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 10:26:47 +0000

Salam,

The Arab slave trade was indeed made up of Black people, anybody who’ll deny that is ignoring obvious facts.
This ideology hasn’t vanished from the Arab community since then.
It was in North Africa that the slave trade was made up of Whites (whoever was captured at the time by the Amazigh and Turks, would be made slave).
Anyhow, I find some African American men just fine, would happily marry one.

Comment on Music And Islam: Wind, Strings And Fear of A Black Planet by Walter

Walter — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 06:53:09 +0000

The Prophet (saw)recited the Qur’an and I consider this music, who are you to tell me or any scholar of Islam and not music to tell me what music is. Rap to some is music, others its poetry, others, like me, it’s noise, who are YOU or anyone else to tell me different. Some music is good, like Adhan, which is sung, some is lawh and distracts from the Adhan, but the flaw is that you can’t tell me what music is, that’s up to my opinion. I know the Hadith you quote, and I also know the Adhan is music, if not prove me wrong and I will argue your side, Allah most High be my witness.
Salaam

Comment on Music And Islam: Wind, Strings And Fear of A Black Planet by Walter

Walter — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 06:44:17 +0000

The Adhan is music is it not? The Qur’an is to be recited in a beautiful manner is it not? If you disagree, then what do you define as music? Both the Qur’an is sung/recited and the Adhan. A song can be recited, what makes them different? One is lawh/distraction with bad implication and the other is a form of religious reminder or a call to a religious duty in the case of Adhan. Conclusion, some forms of music Adhan, Qur’an being recited are good and some are lawh.

Comment on Marry A Black Muslim Brother?: Muslim Marriage Attitudes and Blackness by artemis

artemis — Sun, 03 Feb 2013 16:33:18 +0000

Hello,
I was looking for some more information due to marriage in Ginuea that I found this article.
In fact, I need to know more about muslim marriage culture over there.
i’m 31years old and my boy friend is the same. he is educated and grew up in Paris and currently we both live in Montréal.we are in love since 2011. I am muslim too. but he tells me that he is not able to get marry with me., because his father is going to find a wife for him and he has to accept. because it is their culture. i do not understand why. he should do whatever he wants in his life….. however he is no happy about that but he does not do anything to change this situation. i can not stop crying a day without him.
please advice.
thanks.