What Women Think: Results of A Survey
by Brother Dash
Results from a survey on Sensuality, Womanhood and Motherhood for the novel The Donor: When Conception Meets Deception
My debut novel is about Chase Archibald a 30 year old, 6′ 3″ chisel bodied, intelligent, loyal, charming Johnny Handsome type. He’s a fast rising young professor with flawless mocha brown skin, a heart of gold, a tender touch when you need it and a steel clutch when you want it. He’s the man all women want and all men want to be. There’s just one problem. He’s a lie. And in order to keep a secret past from destroying his perfect lie he will be blackmailed into repaying a debt…with his body. He is The Donor: When Conception Meets Deception.
In the novel he must agree to become a “natural” sperm donor. That is to say he must actually engage in the act with several women who wish to get pregnant without going to a fertility clinic. The novel explores themes related to running from our pasts, not dealing with our truths, and it explores womanhood, motherhood and sensuality. To help me as an author, especially a male one, in creating authentic female characters I asked for feedback from women to help me in my research.
I conducted a survey to gather responses from women around three basic questions:
- What is the relationship between womanhood and motherhood?
- Why would a woman choose to get pregnant by purposefully having “sex with no strings attached” vs. going to a fertility clinic?
- What are your fantasies, desires, and preferences in a man sexually?
The survey consisted of 12 multiple choice and free form text questions. All respondents were women 18 and over. The survey was anonymous and judgment free. 104 women responded over the course of 4 weeks. Results are below.
You may share the results with the following attribution please: “Courtesy of Brother Dash, www.brotherdash.com”
Q.1 I believe that motherhood and womanhood are tied together. If a woman never experiences what it is like to be a mother her womanhood is lacking.
Agree 11%
Mostly Agree 15%
Mostly Disagree 31%
Disagree 43%
Q.2 How important is it for you to have children?
Extremely Important 37%
Important 23%
Lean Towards Important 14%
Lean Towards Not Important 16%
Not Important 10%
Q.3 How would you feel if you were to never have children?
AUTHOR NOTE: This was a free form text question. I have created the graphic below which highlights the most common words or sentiments respondents expressed. The larger the font size the more often those words were used by respondents. Click pic to magnify.
How Would You Feel If You Never Have/Had A Child?
Q.4 Would you have a child if you were not in a committed relationship?
Yes 37%
No 63%
Q.5 You do not have the option of pregnancy with a significant other. You want a child for whatever reason (biological clock, desire for motherhood, family expectations, etc). Given a choice between an anonymous sperm donor from a fertility clinic or actually engaging in the natural act of copulation in order to get pregnant which would you prefer?
Fertility Clinic 39%
Engaging in the act 61%
Q.6 One of the themes of “The Donor” revolves around this idea of a man who is paid by female clients to impregnate them through natural copulation. Think about why a woman would or would not want this arrangement and share your thoughts below.
AUTHOR NOTE: This was a free form text question. I have created the graphic below which highlights the most common words or sentiments respondents expressed. The larger the font size the more often those words were used by respondents. Click pics to magnify.
Why Would A Woman Choose A Sex Donor?
Why Would A Woman Choose A Clinic?
Q. 7 Rate on a scale of 1-5 what you find most sexually arousing in a man with 1= Extremely 2= Arousing 3= Somewhat 4=Not that arousing 5=Not arousing at all
Author Note: Participants scored EACH of the following on a scale of 1-5 with the results being the average score for each quality or trait. The closer to 1 the more arousing/desirable they found that quality or trait sexually speaking.
- His Intellect 1.85
- A Confident Demeanor 1.95
- Displays Strong Fatherhood Qualities 2.14
- The Sound of His Voice 2.22
- Takes Charge in Bed 2.31
- His Words (Says nice things, Poetic, Smooth Talker) 2.32
- A Muscular/Athletic Build 2.34
- Shows His Feelings/Emotionally Vulnerable 2.38
- Size of His Penis 2.75
- His Wealth/Ability to Provide 2.92
Q. 8 What ethnicity, if any, would you like to have a sexual experience with?
- Black 38%
- Latino 8%
- White 6%
- Mixed Race 6%
- American Indian/Indigenous 4%
- Arab 2%
- South Asian 2%
- East Asian 0%
- No Preference/No Answer 36%
Q. 9 How often would you LIKE to have sexual intercourse?
Everyday 23%
Every other day 47%
Once per week 20%
A few times per month 8%
Never 0%
Q. 10 How often do you actually ENGAGE in sexual intercourse?
Everyday 0%
Every other day 11%
Once per week 21%
A few times per month 23%
Once to a few times per year 13%
I am celibate 32%
Q.11 Almost Done! Describe with as much detail as possible your sexual fantasy. Remember this survey is ANONYMOUS and only used to help create authentic characters for a novel.
AUTHOR NOTE: This was a free form text question. I have created the graphic below which highlights the most common words or sentiments respondents expressed. The larger the font size the more often those words were used by respondents. Click pic to magnify.
Most Prominent Words or Phrases Women Used To Describe Their Sexual Fantasies
Q.12 What is your age?
18-25 5%
25-29 8%
30-39 44%
40-49 37%
50 & Over 6%
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Brother Dash is the author of The Donor: When Conception Meets Deception whose tagline reads: “In order to keep a secret past from destroying his perfect lie the man who “has it all” will be blackmailed into repaying a debt…with his body.” Get freebies on the Brother Dash email list www.brotherdash.com
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